should not be afraid to acquire new empowering beliefs and get rid of those limiting. Overcome their limitations and acquire new tools that give us power can only have positive effects on our lives. It will be our reason to suggest such beliefs are an obstacle for us and must be replaced.
If you've always wanted to paint a picture, but since childhood have you believe (or did they get) to be denied for the design, probably have never had the courage to buy a manual of painting. What is engage in something for which you believe to be denied? It 'obvious that in such a situation that prevented you to learn to paint was its belief that limiting.
must learn to give the proper order of things: sometimes we think we are done in a certain way and that we convince ourselves that our way of being can or can not afford to do certain things. In fact, in most of these situations, the case should be reversed with the effect: it is our belief that power or not being able to do something that makes us behave that way (which is consistent with our limiting belief).
But back to the belief on our limited artistic abilities. What happens when you start to believe they can learn to paint? Obviously not paint like Caravaggio few minutes later, but meanwhile you "open your mind in front of a subject to which had been completely closed. If at that time did not take into account the very idea of \u200b\u200ba course of painting, now in doubt (or conviction) to be able to succeed in learning, you might make a different assessment. And this is not a new resource that provides you with your mind, just after changing your belief? But your mind may allow access to other resources: it could gather more information and reworked, it could give you the incentives and the right concentration to succeed in your work, could also give you the strength to persevere in the face of any attempts. Everything she is convinced we can do it . Here you will find new resources to be accessed by changing your beliefs: if I continued to believe that not good at painting you would not have even allowed the time to see if there is a book for "aspiring painters who are considered negative for the painting". ..
But how do you dismantle a belief that limits us? We do this by acting his two fronts: a first approach provides a rational analysis to verify if indeed this is the case as we believe that, in a later act on internal representations associated with our belief: in this case, we find solace in the GNP through the manipulation of submodalities. In fact even if we only rational analysis reconsider our beliefs from a new angle and this is to change the perception we have of it, and then to change our internal representation. Thus, two parallel approaches that are mutually reinforcing.
Take a sheet of paper on which we write our analysis: it is essential write Because this allows us to develop better information and to read the following days.
Write your limiting belief, in the form of affirmation. For example "I am denied for drawing" or "I think I'm unable to form relationships with others" ...
forces that drive us to change a situation are two: or the pain we feel for the condition under which we are or the pleasure they feel when they reach the new condition (more about these issues in a future post).
So let us combine our pain limiting belief, in order to find the strength to deny it. " To this end, let us ask ourselves the following questions and write responses to our paper:
- What will it cost not to get rid of this belief?
- What negative effects in terms of emotional, economic or physical experience could not free me from this belief?
We then need to put some "dynamite stick" in our belief, in order to blow up a few pillar and let it collapse. So let us write down everything that is in disagreement with our belief and that can help us to demolish it. This task can be facilitated by answering the following questions:
- From what follows this my belief? E 'confirmed by personal experience, I was transferred to another person, a parent, the media, the environment in which I live?
- If belief I was transferred by third parties (friends, parents etc..), It suffices to consider that statement also applies to me? Why? It 'should consider the possible person that I transferred the belief as a role model?
- always believe in that statement or I believe it started from a particular moment of my life? If so, why the first did not believe it?
- What makes me feel that this belief is objectively true? I found that the data is actually the case? And if I have, you can assume that data are insufficient to consider this claim as a universal and ever valid in the future?
- There are aspects of my belief that, for separate analysis, impartial and rational, are clearly unrealistic or absurd or strange in some ways?
- There are specific situations or events in the past, in which I completely deny my belief or my belief in which was only partially confirmed? There are situations or events that relate to other people that this belief was debunked?
then writes a list of episodes or scenes that belie your beliefs and try to gather as much information as possible that conflict with your beliefs. They can be personal experiences or that happened to others. It surely there is different because the absolute truth can be counted on the fingers of one hand, and any thing that you believe can be easily refuted.
Now write a conviction potentiating going to replace the previous one. For example, if your limiting belief was " are denied for the design " type " are convinced he can learn to draw " and immediately begins to look feedback to your new empowering beliefs. Be guided by the following questions:
- There are incidents and situations in my past life that can confirm the new empowering beliefs? What are they?
- There are testimonies of others who can confirm what I said? What are they? There
- past situations similar to the new claim that can make me believe that it is actually credible? What are they?
Finally we try to associate the idea of \u200b\u200b delighted to take on the new empowering belief. To this end, write in our sheet all that helpful and pleasant we will bring the new belief. Here are some questions that can guide us:
- useful I accept this new empowering beliefs? What would be gained "by my" this new belief?
- How will my life and what goals I can achieve?
So, if our limiting belief is " are ugly and I do not have success in love " (and maybe it will be true ...), is also a fact that " around you can see dozens of couples in which there considering how to make one to be with the other . So we will always have the information that allows us to interpret it differently (and more useful) to our every belief. You'll see just
also suggest a little doubt in the old limiting belief to start automatically the whole process. Then the new resources to be accessed and new actions that follow we will obtain results which will further enhance our new empowering beliefs in a kind of virtuous circle that will give us more power.
What we have written should be read with some frequency in the evenings and mornings or two, three or ten times a day ... there is no precise rule. Do it until you will feel that they have actually acquired the new belief, that is, until, by saying aloud the new belief, you will not understand the tone of your voice made her indeed.